Only if you’ve been completely unplugged for the past three days would you have missed the Women’s March this weekend. There were marches in almost every major city where women turned out in record numbers to fight for rights they haven’t lost, the right to abort their babies, and called for all sorts of things from a judiciary review of our nation’s “second constitution” and the bankruptcy of 1933, to the “right to live” (your right, not your baby’s), and for our nation’s “cheetoh” to step down.
I watched hours of live feed and still haven’t figured out what everyone was marching for and what I did see left me utterly embarrassed to be a female millennial. No, I saw nothing during this women’s march that even remotely resembled unity, tolerance, and love, or the “strength” I hope my daughters grow up to one day embody. What I saw was hate, hypocrisy, narrow-mindedness, and tantrums: big … ugly … grown-up toddler tantrums. I know some women want to be “nasty women,” but I’m not raising nasty – I’m raising classy.
I am one of them, but I’m #notwiththem.
While I applaud my ancestors for marching for my right to vote, freedoms, and my voice, and I agree that there is always work to be done, I’m not going to wear a giant vulva on my head and shout profanities at someone else to do it. No. Thank. You. I’m currently teaching my daughters that throwing a tantrum and calling me a meanie gets them nowhere. (That’s not how the women who came before us got stuff done either.)
Don’t get me wrong, I love a good march. You can burn some pretty serious calories and I love coloring pretty signs (only to throw them in the streets later in a littering protest before I go back to preaching about the environment), but there are things we should be marching for, like …
- Love, respect, and tolerance – and not just towards those who hold our accepted views.
- The right to raise our children free of government interference.
- The right to affordable “GOOD” healthcare.
- The right to organic food and to know what’s in our food.
- The right to homeschool.
- The right to treat whatever it is that ails us with something green.
- The right to refuse vaccines and other medical procedures that carry a risk of death.
- The right to informed consent.
- The right to have the baby we have the right to abort … any way we choose.
- The right to turn on our t.v. or scroll through our newsfeed and not see fake news by journalists who signed on to rig an election or push an agenda (left or right).
- The right for our kids to play outside.
- The right to have longer than five minutes of maternity leave.
- The right to government-sponsored naps.
We have problems and we need to solve them, but joining together like a herd of angry and confused cats who shout vulgarities and talk about blowing up the White House isn’t going to get the job done. (And no, I didn’t literally call them cats, I am using something called a “hyperbole.”) We need to listen to people who have views that differ from our own, educate one another, engage in constructive conversation, hold our elected leaders accountable, respect each other’s position even if we don’t see eye-to-eye, and stop with the third grade rhetoric.
We need to stop idolizing “celebrities” who are getting a lot of money to show up at events to persuade you to follow whomever is paying them the big bucks to be there, and instead, walk across the street and knock on the door of our neighbor. We need to stop fighting for the rights we already have and aren’t even being threatened, and divert that energy to fixing a generation whose rights have been slowly eroded away while we weren’t even looking.
And for the love of all things sweet baby whatever it is you’re into, stop sharing stuff that fans the divisive flames before checking the facts. 99% of what you see in your newsfeed probably isn’t legit and the fake news is the real news and the real news is fake. But hey … what do I know?
You have a voice. Use it wisely.